Thursday, January 11, 2007

Finding true love

Three times Solomon’s bride says it: “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires” (NIV), or “until the appropriate time” (HCSB). (Song of Solomon 2:7; 3:5; 8:4). She is saying, “True love waits until marriage! Don’t arouse sexual love until the proper time.” This is also implied several other times in the song, such as in 2:15 “catch the foxes that ruin the vineyards in bloom” (warning to stop the temptation to ruin the relationship too early) and 4:12 “you are a garden locked up” (referring to her virginity saved for marriage).
The Song of Solomon shows the shallowness of Hollywood’s view of love. Hollywood makes movies that say true love is all about sex. In the current movie, The Holiday, the stars of the movie hop in bed with each other almost immediately after they meet, and then after having sex many times, they discover true love.
I wonder what Solomon’s bride would say if she saw that movie? She would probably jump to her feet in the middle of the film, spill popcorn all over Solomon and shout, “Are you crazy? Don’t light the fire too soon or you’ll get burned!”
I know cohabitation is common in our society today, but it’s also common for Americans to eat too much and get up to their ears in debt. Just because it’s common doesn’t make it good for us.
You see, when you have sex with somebody, you have left part of your body with that person. You think that you can have sex with somebody you’re not married to, and then walk away from it without being hurt? You know what that’s like? Suppose it was 20 degrees outside, and there was a light pole covered in ice. Suppose you went up to that pole, stuck out your tongue, and let it freeze to that pole. Then you tried to rip your tongue loose and walk away. You could get loose, and you could walk away, but there’s no way you can do it without leaving a part of you behind. If you’ll forgive the pun, that’s just a “taste” of what it is like to have sex with somebody outside of marriage.
True love waits until marriage to give itself away.

1 comment:

Bloodiest of Ladies said...

I have an odd picture of Solomon with popcorn all over him....

I think a good question here is exactly what are people looking for with sex? Is it actually sex or is it a touch, the idea that someone loves them? I don't think most people are really as tuned into sex as they might think. I think most people use it to find a gentle touch and to stand in for love because we've all been conditioned to believe that's what it means. That's what it should mean. It should mean that the person you choose to engage in such activities with is worth your body; worth your honest and lucid devotion. But quite often it doesn't. It leaves people empty and hoping that someone else will make it better.

It's not sex that leaves people either better or worse for the experience, it's what was behind it. If there is honest love and committment it will work itself to the betterment of the people involved without sex, and if there isn't sex will only make that more evident.

When the time comes, for each person, to make a decision that leaves them in the arms of one person for the rest of their life, then sex has it's place as an expression and a new touch, but outside of that it can only prove to be harmful.

All that having been rambled, our biological instincts are to reproduce, and our societal instincts are to find emotion overwhelming. Working under these conditions is not the place to make a decision, or to justify one.